Anger management: Best tips to control your anger and maintain your cool

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I was also a short-tempered person like you but a small change in my mindset brought a lot of improvement. You can also use this method and control your anger.

Anger management

Anger can be mainly divided into 2 types

1. Short and immediate anger
2. Long-lasting anger

1. Short and immediate anger

In this type, you will get angry because of a situation or behavior of a person, but you will not have any hatred towards the person. To oppose a situation you will react immediately in the form of anger. This is the most common type of anger which we show on our family members/friends. So now let us see how to control it by just changing our mindset.

Tip 1: Focusing on the solution than blaming others

Let us understand it with example

1(a) – Imagine that you have an important exam tomorrow morning and started the preparation at 7 pm today. As soon as you started the preparation think there is a power cut. In this situation what do you do? 75% of the people immediately start thinking of the alternatives like charging light, candle, torchlight in the mobile, etc

1(b) – Imagine in the same situation if a child or someone in your house switches off the light unknowingly. In this situation, 75% of the people immediately shout at the person who has done it.

If you observe 1(a) and 1(b) the problem is the same. In fact, in 1(b) problem is simple and can be solved by just switching on the light. Still, most of the people got angered in 1(b) but not in 1(a), why?

Because in 1(a) immediately when a problem raised you started searching for a solution without blaming others which you did not do in 1(b). So first tip to controlling anger is to focus on solutions than blaming others.

Tip 2: Don’t expect Humans to be 100% error-free

Let us also understand this with a small example

2(a) – Imagine You have given a white shirt to your family member to wash. They have washed it but you have noticed a stain on the shirt even after washing.75% of us immediately shout at them out of anger. Now, look at the second scenario.

2(b) – You have kept the white shirt in the washing machine for wash and noticed that the stain is not removed. What will you do? Generally, people put it again in the washing machine for a second wash.

So if you observe when a machine didn’t wash properly you didn’t get angry but when a human did you got irritated. why? because you are expecting humans to be 100% error-free, which is very rare. So try to understand this truth and help others in becoming perfect.

Tip 3: Be flexible to change the decisions/wishes

One more reason for anger is the lack of flexibility to change the decisions/wishes. In most cases, this is the big reason for your anger. For example one fine day you have decided to go to a movie and suddenly you got work from your parents/family. In this scenario most of the people get angry.

But if you are flexible, you will not mind it and change the schedule so that you will do the work and watch the movie as well. so being flexible to change the decisions is an important thing to control anger.

Tip 4: Understand that everyone has their own point of view

Almost every one of you might have experienced this situation. We will generally get irritated when someone is not agreeing with our point of view. But think from a broader point of view as you have your point of view others will also have their point of view. So don’t get offended when someone doesn’t agree with your point.

But if a situation comes where you have to argue, try to argue with numbers and facts so that others will agree with you and at the same time you will not get angry.

Tip 5: Dealing with internal dissatisfaction or unfulfilled wishes

One more main reason for anger is internal dissatisfaction or unfulfilled wishes. This is also a common reason for anger.  The specialty of this is that we show anger on someone who is not responsible for it. The solution for this problem is to start working for the wishes instead of developing dissatisfaction and if you are clear that your wishes can’t be true then you have to tell yourself that it is not our fate and many great things are waiting for you.

So forget them and start working for new and better wishes/dreams.

Tip 6: Pranayama/Breathing exercise

There is simple pranayama that will help you in controlling your anger and emotions.

Close your right nostril and breathe in from the left nostril to your full capacity, then immediately exhale through the right nostril by closing the left nostril. After that inhale with the right nostril to your full capacity and then immediately exhale with the left nostril by closing the right nostril. Like this do 4 sets each time and 4 times a day ( 4 x4 sets ) on empty stomach. If you can’t do it 4 times at least do 2 times a day, morning and evening.

pranayama anger management

2. Long-lasting Anger

The second type of anger is totally different compared to the first. Here you have hatred towards a person, so you hate the person even if he does good or bad. Because of this, you will lose more than the person whom you hate. Because of this, you will lose your peace of mind.

When you hate someone your mind will concentrate more on how to destroy or do bad to him, than on concentrating on how you can improve your life and become happier. Means you are spending more energy on someone whom you don’t like. Do you really want to spend your energy on someone whom you hate? no right? So if you really hate someone just forget them and concentrate on how you can improve yourself and have a better life.

Finally, I don’t say that you should not get angry. Anger is also important in some situations, but what I suggest is don’t get irritated from inside which will disturb your own peace. Use it only when needed with the presence of mind, which means anger should be in your control. “MAKE ANGER YOUR SERVANT, BUT DON’T BECOME A SERVANT TO ANGER”

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Haridwar and Rishikesh Temples

Are you planning for Haridwar and Rishikesh visit ? Want to know what to see in Haridwar and Rishikesh ? Below you can find the  list of important and historic places/temples in Haridwar & Rishikesh. This article will give you a detailed info about the famous religious places or sight seeing places in Haridwar and Rishikesh.

When I was in Jaipur I went to Haridwar and Rishikesh trip for 2 days. I have started in Jaipur Friday night by bus and reached Haridwar next day at around 9.30 am.

Haridwar rishikesh map image

Day one

Places visited : Birla Ghat , Mansa devi temple , Chandi devi temple, Daksh temple, Ganga aarati at Birla ghat

HARIDWAR, Uttarakhand ,India

Hari means God and dwar means gate. So Haridwar means gateway to God. Haridwar is the gateway to Chardham(Gangothri, Yamunotri, Kedarnath and Badrinath). There are many religious attractions in and near by Haridwar.

After stepping down in Haridwar first sight that caught my eyes is mata Ganga(river Ganga). Right from my childhood I have heard a lot about the greatness of mata Ganga.Seeing Ganga mata for the first time is like goosebumps movement for me.I think it is difficult to talk about Haridwar and Rishikesh without talking about river Ganga.

GANGA MATA (RIVER GANGA)

It is a dream for almost every hindu to take a dip in river Ganga at least once in life time.

Ganga is the most sacred water body in the entire world.Ganga came to earth from swarga. A dip in ganga can wash away sins and will purify ones mind.Ganga starts in Gangothri and travel around 250km through hilly areas to reach plain areas of Haridwar.

I have taken a room in a hotel which is around 200metres from the banks of ganga. There are many hotels and ashrams in Haridwar where you can get accommodation. After getting fresh I went to one of the ghat which is near by my hotel.I was very much excited to have a dip in river Ganga.Water stream was moving very fast without any sound.Even though it was summer the water was very cool.

On the ghat I have bought some flowers and prayed ganga mata before taking a dip.I stayed in water for sometime and drank some water of sacred ganga,then I prayed to shiva lingas on ghat and went back to hotel.Then I had my lunch and started to ManasaDevi temple at around 12.00 pm.Since it is only 2km from my hotel I went to Manasa Devi mandir by walk.I have taken rope way to reach top of the hill.It was a very good experience to travel in rope way.

MANSADEVI TEMPLE Haridwar

History/Legend/Story : Mansadevi temple is dedicated to goddess mansa devi.Manasa devi emerged from the mind of great sage Kashyapa.Manasa means wish and the goddess fulfills the wish of devotees so she is called as mansa devi. Manasa devi is sister of Vasuki( snake, which lord shiva wears as an ornament). Below you can see the image/picture of mansa devi temple. You can also notice rope way in the below image.

Mansa_Devi_Temple,_Haridwar image

Mansa devi temple timings : 7 am to 7 pm

I went in queue to have darshan of mata Manasa devi. After having darshan of mata Manasa devi ,I have tied a thread to the tree and told my wish.It is believed that if you tie a thread to that tree telling your wish, maa Mansa devi will fulfill your wishes.Then I had darshan of other gods in the temple and sat there for sometime.After this I have taken a shared taxi to reach Chandi temple. Distance from mansa devi temple and chandi temple is 4.5 km.

CHANDI TEMPLE Haridwar

History/Legend/story : It is the place where maa Parvati(in Chandi avatar)killed the demons Chanda, Munda, Shumbha, Nishumbha. After killing them goddess resided on the top of this hill  for sometime.

Chandi temple timing : 6am to 8 pm

Below you can see the images/pictures of Chandi temple and rope way at chandi temple

Chandidevi_temple haridwar image

Ropeway_to_Chandi_Devi_Temple_Haridwar image

Temple was very peaceful and calm. After completing darshan of mata chandi and other gods in the temple I sat there for sometime enjoying the beautiful view from the top of the hill.Then I went to Daksheswara mahadev temple (Daksh mandir) . Distance between chandi temple and  Daksh temple is 5 km.

DAKSHESHWARA MAHADEV TEMPLE

History/story/Legend : This temple is named after the king Daksha prajapati,the father of Sati.This place is considered as the birth place of Sati mata.It is also believed that it is the place where sati mata sacrificed herself by entering the yagna kundam.But there are two other places which are believed to be the places where sati mata sacrificed herself.One is Draksharaaramam in Andhrapradesh and other is kottiyoor in Kerala.

Daksha mahadev temple timing : 6 am to 8 pm

Below you can see the image/picture of Daksh temple.

Daksheshwar_Mahadev_temple,_Kankhal haridwar image

This temple is on the banks of river ganga.In the entrance of the temple you can find a big idol of lord shiva with sati mata in his hands.There is age old tree in the temple premises.In the main temple there is a shiva linga.They allowed me to take water from ganga river which is flowing beside the temple and perform abhishekam to shiva lingam.It is an awesome experience to perform shiva abhishekam with ganga water.

If you visit this place don’t forget to do shiva abhishekam with ganga water . You can also see the yagna kund which is believed to be the place where sati mata sacrificed herself. After that I went to Das mahavidya temple and other sub shrines in the Daksh temple.You can also visit shri maa anandamayi ashram which is beside the temple.In this ashram you can see a rudhraksha tree.

After this I went  to hotel at around 5pm.At around 5.30pm I went to Birla ghat to see ganga aarathi.First I have offered flowers to ganga mata ,taken a dip and waited there to see ganga arathi.Ganga arathi started at around 6pm.First the  priest has performed pooja to the shiva lingas on the ghat.The way he performed shiva pooja is awesome.

Then the priest offered flowers,clothes,kumkum etc to ganga mata and did pooja to ganga mata with Sanskrit slokas.Then he did shankanaad for three times and then started giving arati.In the background they will play ganga arati song while giving arati.In the summer evenings it is an unforgettable experience to see ganga arati.

Ganga_arati_at_Haridwar image

After the arati is completed,slowly the ghat became empty.I sat on the ghat for sometime seeing mata Ganga and experiencing the summer breezes.Then I recalled ganga avatharana ghatta.

You can read the full story of ganga avatharana ghatta ( how ganga came from swarga to earth) by click the below link.

Ganga Avatharanaghatta

After that I went to ashram which is near by the ghat and attended their arati program and went to hotel at around 8pm, had my dinner and went for shopping in the city.I bought a rudrakshamala and some gavvalu/sea shells(kodi kauri) and came back to hotel.With this I have completed my first day in Haridwar.

Day two

Places Visited : Brahmakund , Har ki Pauri, Maya devi temple, Laxman Jhula, Adi bhadrinarayan temple, Ram Jhula, Neelkanth mahadev temple.

Next day early in the morning I went to Brahmakund, Har ki pauri to attend ganga aarati.

BRAHMAKUND, HAR KI PAURI

History/legend/story : It is the famous ghat in Haridwar.In previous yugas Lord Shiva and lord Vishnu visited Brahmakund in Har ki pauri.You can see the footprint of lord Vishnu on the stone wall here.After samudramathan,four drops of amrutham fell on the earth.And in all these four places kumbhmela will be performed.Brahmakund is one of these four places where amrutham has fell.

After the ganga arati is completed I went to Maya devi temple at around 7.30am. Below you can see the image/picture of har ki pauri. Distance from har ki pauri to mayadevi temple is 2.2 km

Har_ki_Pauri,Haridwar image

Bhagwan_Shankar_Statue_at_Haridwar

MAYA DEVI TEMPLE

It is believed that the heart and naval of goddess Sati devi fell in this region where the temple stands today.Goddess Maya is the adhisthatri diety of Haridwar.Haridwar was previously known as Mayapuri in reverence to this diety.This temple is a siddh peetha,where the wishes of devotees get fulfilled. Below you can see the image/picture of maya devi temple

Mayadevi_temple,_Haridwar image

Mayadevi temple timings : 6.30 am to 12 noon and 3 pm to 9 pm

After the darshan of mata Maya devi I went back to hotel,had my breakfast and packed  my bag.Then I have taken a private bus to reach Rishikesh.There are some other important temples in Haridwar which I have not visited.So if you are going to Haridwar try to visit them as well. Distance from haridwar to rishikesh is 20 kms and laxman jhula is 32 km.

RISHIKESH, Uttarakhand India

Rishikesh got its name after lord Vishnu, who appeared to ‘Raibhya rishi’ as a result of his tapasya, as lord Hrishikesh.Rishikesh is considered as land of rishis. Lord Rama also performed tapasya in this place.

Rishikesh is one  of the best place to learn yoga.

In Rishikesh first I went to Lakshman jhula.

LAKSHMAN JHULA

Lakshman jhula is a suspension bridge in Rishikesh.This bridge is built in the same place where lakshmana once crossed river ganga on a jute rope.After crossing Lakshman jhula I went to Adhi Badrinarayan temple.

Laxmanjhula rishikesh image

SHRI ADHI BADRINARAYAN TEMPLE

After crossing Lakshman jhula i went to adhi Badrinath temple. As per guide When the main Badrinath temple is closed poojas to Badrinath are performed in this temple.

venkat (my self) at ram jhula

After the darshan of Adhi Badrinarayan I did some shopping in the near by street and bought some clothes for myself and my family.Then I had lunch in a hotel and went to one of the Shiva temple on the banks of river ganga, near  Ram jhula. In rishikesh you can find many foreign tourists , who might have come to learn yoga.

Then I started to Shri Neelakant mahadev temple at around 3pm . Distance between laxman jhula and Ram jhula is 2.9 km. Distance from Rishikesh to Shri neelakanth mahadev mandir (temple) is  32 km and distance from Laxman jhula to Shri neelkanth mahadev temple is 22.5 km

SHRI NEELAKANTH MAHADEV TEMPLE

History/Legend/story : This is the place where lord Shiva consumed halahal(meaning poison) that emerged during samudramathan.Because of halahal throat of lord Shiva became blue so lord shiva is known as Neelakant. Below you can see the image/picture of neelkant mahadev temple

NeelKanth_Mahadev_Temple rishikesh image

Neelkanth mahadev temple timings : 6 am to 9 pm ( i suggest you to visit before sunset as it is hilly area)

Shri Neelakant Mahadev temple is on the hills.You can get shared cabs from Rishikesh to reach this temple.On the hill other than the temple there are very few constructions (hardly 3 or 4) so the place is very calm and peaceful.While traveling in the cab you can enjoy the beautiful view of river ganga and the hills.

After getting darshan of lord shiva I also got darshan of akanda jyothi which is beside the temple.As per the sayings of priests this jyothi is there from longtime and no one knows, when it was started. Out side the temple you can get some snacks which you can have, by enjoying the beautiful environment.Then I came back to Rishikesh and went to Triveni ghat to attend ganga arati.

TRIVENI GHAT Rishikesh

Triveni ghat is a confluence of 3 holy rivers, ganga, Yamunothri and Saraswathi.

Triveni_Ghat_Rishikesh image

I went to triveni ghat  by around 6pm.By the time  I went  there ghat was fully crowded(I think some special  program is going on) .After ganga arati, I sat on ghat for sometime and drunk some gangajal and  started  back to bus stand by crossing Ram jhula.

while crossing Ram jhula I stopped at the center of the jhula  for sometime to once again experience the cool breezes  from ganga  mata and the beautiful nature.I did not feel like going back,but some how I made my heart strong by saying that I will visit the place  once again.After that I went to bus stop and took a bus.With this my Haridwar and  Rishikesh tour completed.

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Melkote Mysore Srirangapatnam Temples

Are you planning to visit Mysore ? Don’t know what to see ? Below you can find the must visit historic temples in Mysore with in 50-60 km distance.

One fine day me and my friend decided to go on weekend trip/tour(2 day trip) to Mysore. Our plan was to start Saturday morning from Bangalore and return back to Bangalore by Sunday evening. I have prepared a plan accordingly covering the important and famous temples in and around Mysore.

Important and famous places visited near Mysore : Sri Chaluvanarayana swamy temple(melkote), Yoga Narasimhaswamy temple(melkote) , Chamundi hills(mysore), Chamundeshwari temple(mysore), Sri ranganathaswamy temple(srirangapatna). Below you can see the tour map details

Mysore 2 day tour plan from Bangalore image

Day one

We started at around 7 am and went to bus stand from where we will get buses to Mandya. There are no. of buses from Bengaluru to mandya. Distance between bangalore and mandya  is around 100 km. We thought we can reach mandya in 2.5  hours, but because of huge traffic it has taken around 5.5 hours to reach mandya.

We reached mandya by around 1.30 pm, we had our lunch and went to bus stop from where we can get buses to Melkote. Distance from mandya to Melkote is 40km. We reached Melkote by around 4.30 pm. Then we first went to Chaluvanarayana swamy temple

Chaluvanarayana swamy temple (Lord Vishnu) , Melkote Karnataka

History/story/legend : Chaluvanarayana swamy temple is one of the most important temple of lord Vishnu. Legend of this temple dates back to Kruthayuga. Shri chaluvanarayanaswamy was worshipped in kruthayuga by lord(God) Dattatreya.

In tretayuga it was worshiped by Lord shri Rama and in dwaparayuga it was worshiped by lord shri Krishna and Balarama. Saint Shri ramanujacharya stayed in this temple for 12 years. Below you can see the image of Cheluvanarayanaswamy temple .

Chaluvanarayanaswamy temple melkote image

Cheluvanarayana swamy temple timings : 7.30 am to 1pm , 4pm to 6pm , 7pm to 8pm

From Melkote bus stop we started walking towards Cheluvanarayana swamy temple. Temple of chaluvanarayana swamy was very big and architecture of the temple is very beautiful. Crowd in the temple was less, so we got darshan of chaluvanarayanaswamy in very less time.

After the darshan of the lord we sat in the temple looking at the architecture and enjoying the peaceful environment. Then we came out of the temple and started towards Yoga Narashima swamy temple . In between we have stopped at koneru (pond built by stones). Seeing the Koneru makes us feel that we are in ancient India. Then we went to Yoga Narasimhaswamy temple. Distance between chaluvanarayanaswamy temple and yoga narasimhaswamy temple is around 1 km.

Melkote koneru image

Yoga Narasimha swamy temple, Melkote

History/story/legend : Idol(statue) of Lord Narasimhaswamy in this temple will be in a seated position with yoga patta. This temple is considered as one of the seven main temples devoted to the worship of lord Narasimha. The diety of Narasimha in this temple was installed by prahalada ( great devote of lord Vishnu, for whom lord Vishnu came in the form of Narasimha avatar). Below you can see the image/picture of yoga Narasimha swamy temple

Yoga narasimha swamy temple melkote image

Yoga Narasimhaswamy temple timings : 9.30 am to 1.30 pm , 5.30 pm to 8 pm

Temple will be on the hill and we have to climb around 300 steps to reach the temple. We have started climbing the steps in hurry and got tired after climbing 200 steps. So I request you to climb slowly. Then we had the darshan of lord narasimha and felt blessed. Temple surroundings are very peaceful .From the top of the hill you can have a clear view of near by places.

Then we went back to bus stop at around 7.15 pm. At that time there were no buses, so we have taken a shared auto and went to jakkanahalli cross, from where we can get buses to Mysore. Jakkanahalli is 7 km from Melkote. From Jekkanahalli we have traveled in a private bus and reached mysore city at around 9pm. Distance from Melkote to mysore is 56 km .

We have taken a room in a hotel which is near by bus stop. We have got fresh and went outside to have dinner. With this we have completed first day of our tour.

Day two

Next day we have started at around 7 am in the morning and went to bus stop from where we will get buses to Sri Chamundeshwari temple. We got a bus to chamundeshwari temple at around 8 am. Distance between mysore bus stand  and chamundi hills is 12 km. It has taken 40 min for us to reach Chamundeswari temple.

While traveling in bus we can enjoy the scenery of chamundi hills, which are fully covered by greenery. The actual beauty of mysore is in chamundi hills and I can say chamundi hills are one of the best attractions of Mysore. There is also a walk way/trekking path (1000 steps) to climb the hills.

Chamundeshwari temple, Mysore, karnataka

History/legend/story : Maa Parvathi incarnated as Chamundeshwari devi to kill the demon mahishasura. Maa Chamundeshwari fought with mahishasura and his army for nine continuous days, slaying the demon army and mahishasura at the top of the hill.

After killing mahishasura, Maa chamundeshwari resided on the top of the hill to bless the devotees. Darshan of Maa chamundeshwari will remove the evil forces in us and help us in achieving success. Below you can see the image/picture of chamundeshwari temple

Chamundeshwari temple chamundi hills mysore image

There was a huge crowd in the temple and the queue line came out of the temple. We stood in the line and it has taken around 2 hours to get the darshan of mata chamundeshwari. Even though the crowd was heavy, with the blessings of goddess chamundeshwari we got a very good darshan. Jai Mata di

Sri Chamundeshwari temple timings : 7.30 am to 2 pm , 3.30 pm to 6 pm , 7.30 to 9 pm

After having the darshan we started back to mysore bus stop. There is also old and famous Mahabaleshwara (lord Shiva) temple which is in walk able distance (200 meters) from sri chamundeshwari temple. please do visit it as well.

Actually we are supposed to visit mysore palace but as we have to go back to Bangalore we have skipped it. We went back to hotel by around 12 noon, quickly packed our bags and took a bus to go to srirangapatnam. Distance from mysore to Srirangapatnam is 20 km.

After getting down in srirangapatnam we took an auto and directly went to sriranganathaswamy temple. By the time we reached the temple it was around 1 pm.

Sriranganatha swamy temple srirangapatnam

History/legend/story : Once river cauveri performed tapasya to lord Vishnu in this place, pleased with her penance lord Vishnu gave darshan to cauveri and granted three boons.

1. Cauveri will become more sacred
2. Place where she performed penance (srirangapatnam) will become pilgrimage
3. He will reside there as ranganatha to bless the devotees

The lord brahma, lord shiva, along with all the gods came here and worshipped lord Ranganatha  and mata Laxmi. Great rishi gowthama along with many other great rishi’s worshipped ranganathaswamy in this temple. Below you can see the image/picture of sriranganathaswamy temple

Sri ranganadaswamy temple srirangapatnam image

Sriranganathaswamy temple timings : 7 am to 1.30 pm , 4 pm to 8 pm

In this temple also crowd was heavy and queue line came out of the temple. We also joined the queue line at around 1pm. Actually temple is supposed to close at 1.30pm but they have allowed all the people who are in queue line by 1.30 pm. Since it was afternoon and summer, the road was like a hot pan.

Standing in the queue line with out chappal is really a great experience. This experience made me remember the quote that “it’s not easy to get the darshan of God”. Outside the temple you can purchase tulasi mala for lord shri Ranganatha. After spending around 1-1.5 hours in queue line finally we got darshan of lord shri ranganatha.

I can say that two eyes will not be enough to see the lord. Lord Vishnu will be on adishehsa in yoga nidra with mata laxmi at his feet. We gave tulasi mala to priest, who offered it at the lord’s feet. The immediate devote after us was performing some special Pooja so we got a chance to stay infront of the lord ranganathaa for around 5-10 min. Seeing lord shri ranganatha for 5-10 min made me feel as if I was in Vykuntam seeing lord Vishnu along with mata Laxmi.

After darshan we had lunch at around 3.00 pm and started back to Bangalore.

There is nimishamba temple (maa parvati which is only 2 km from sri ranganadaswamy temple. We were unable to visit nimishamba temple because of time factor

With this we have completed our Melkote, mysore and srirangapatnam visit.

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